Do You Should On Yourself?
What seeds are you planting today?
Shoulda? Woulda? Coulda?
Or – How can I learn from that? What would I love to create?
Focusing on the past creates fear.
Focusing on the future creates worry.
Both fear and worry keeps us shoulding on ourselves…
When you eliminate them, you only have the now. Acting in the moment, without the worry or fear, allows us to silence the “should” and take authentic inspired action.
Vibrant Living Tip
In an article in Positive Psychology called: “How to Live in the Present Moment” Courtney E. Ackerman has this to say –
“Being in the present moment, or the ‘here and now,’ means that we are aware and mindful of what is happening at this very moment. We are not distracted by ruminations on the past or worries about the future, but centered in the here and now. All of our attention is focused on the present moment.”
She goes on to say –
“To get to this healthy balance, try to keep these guidelines in mind:
- Think about the past in small doses, and make sure you are focusing on the past for a reason (e.g., to relive a pleasant experience, identify where you went wrong, or figure out the key to a past success).
- Think about the future in small doses, and make sure you are focusing on the future in a healthy, low-anxiety way (e.g., don’t spend time worrying about the future, think about the future just long enough to prepare for it and then move on).
- Stay in the present moment for the vast majority of your time.
Of course, following these guidelines is easier said than done, but it will get easier with practice!”
The first step is to notice. Be aware of when you are fearful or worried. Then ask – Is it happening now? Do I want it to happen? If the answer to both of these is no, then ask – What can I do to move me in the direction of my dream now. Then take that action. Each time you do it gets easier. Just the awareness is a great first step.
Vibrant Living Take Away
A friend once told me – “Don’t should on me and I won’t should on you.” I would add to that – Don’t should on yourself!
Until next time...
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